There’s something I’ve been thinking about for a while now: why are men so confident?
As in where does it actually come from?
Patriarchy?
Ngl that’s not my area of expertise so I’m not even trying to go into that.
Stop moving to my friends
Let me give you an example of what I’m trying to say (side note to all my male friends, if you think I’m coming for you right now I definitely am). So let’s say I’m with a male friend and I mention one of my female friends that they don’t know, or I say that I went to see her recently. Their first question is normally: is she ?
I’m sorry sir but (a young pidgin, my 3rd language).
What’s your own? Why are you asking if she’s peng? Can you actually relax?
Then they may proceed to ask for her number or one of her social media handles in an attempt to maybe move to her.
First of all, do you even know if you’re my friend’s type?
Second of all, all my friends are peng so don’t ask silly questions.
Lastly, what makes you think she would even be interested in you?
Now, no shade to my male friends I love you guys, but some of you need to slow it all the way down.
My female friends are actually serious so won’t go for some boy, not that I’m saying you’re dege dege but you’re actually just not my friend’s type. Sorry, not sorry.
I’m not saying all my male friends do this, only a couple of them.
In general, I’ve just witnessed the way some boys move and I don’t get it.
I rate men’s confidence
With all this being said I lowkey rate it.
To have that level of confidence actually intrigues me.
Like, what is the thought process behind it?
I feel like this confidence transcends to other areas of life. In particular in the areas of careers as I’ve heard that men are way more likely to apply for a job that they’re not qualified for, in comparison to women.
Where does this confidence come from please?
Is it because Adam was the first person created?
Because we all think God is a man?
Is it because Jesus is a man?
Did God just create men like that?
Why are men so confident?
So many questions and I could probably do some research into why men are so confident but I know myself. When I research something I can get so deep into it and lost in a rabbit hole (more time the only research I should be worried about is the research for my disso).
Me too, I want that same level of confidence. I want to have that level of confidence to see something I want and – but bro sometimes these boys haven’t even seen the girl but they want to chat to her already.
Is it confidence or a lack of self-respect?
One could say though, is it really confidence or a lack of self-worth and self-respect (no shade, but if you’re offended what’s my own).
Why do you feel the need to move to every girl? Do you feel like you’re not good enough to get the type of girl you truly want so you just chat to them all, hoping one would like you? Or is it because you think you’re saucy, and you think you can get every and any girl so you’re just chatting to them all to stroke your ego?
Why do boys even move to girls? Boredom? For fun? Like what is the actual reason and what do you want to get out of it? Companionship? Sex? Love? A relationship? So many questions…
It just got me thinking and I don’t feel like I rate myself enough. I feel like I’m a confident person in general but sometimes I don’t feel confident in my own ability.
I’m really asking myself questions surrounding self-worth and value and what it actually means to me.
What does self-worth mean to you?
I don’t feel as though I value and believe in myself as much as I thought I did.
Then I remember that the same Spirit that raised Jesus from the dead is living in me – Romans 8:11. Huh? Excuse me?
I’m actually unstoppable.
But if I know this is true why don’t I act as though I believe it…
Yeah, I’m going to continue this in another post: #9 – Surviving 2019: Remembering one of the most challenging years
Resources
Songs
The following songs both have the lines “I am who You say I am” which is something I will go into in this post:
Hillsong – Who You Say I Am
Dante Bowe – Champion
