Valentine. Valentine is coming o valentine. Where’s your boyfriend (or girlfriend), they are sitting at home…
Happy Valentine’s day y’all!
Feliz día de San Valentín and them man!
So, as it’s a special occasion, I would like to dedicate this post to bae (you know who you are).
Please don’t take me seriously. I’m definitely single (or am I)…
I can’t wait for me and bae to look back on this post one day and laugh.
But yeah, let me try to be serious.
The reality of Valentine’s day
So for those who are boo’d up (feelings, so deep in my feelings), if they live with their partner they get to spend this day together. If you don’t live with your partner – Zoom innit.
Sorry, deep this. Imagine your man is learning how to make a wig to surprise you with one on Valentine’s day. Must be nice. Must be really nice. Can’t relate (I can’t believe I haven’t bought any hair since 2019 – this is what we call growth).
As for me personalmente, I’ve never had a Valentine as I’ve never been in a relationship (but situationship…) so this is just a normal day for me tbh. I get that social media can make it seem like you’re missing out, but I don’t know. I don’t really feel like I’m ‘missing out’ on anything as I just feel like God always comes through for me at the right time. So I’m not really worried.
Although sometimes I just want to stroke someone’s son’s beard (not that he has to have a beard tbh). As in, that’s not too much to ask, is it?
Also, I know that I have a good personality and I’m always meeting new people, so I don’t see how I won’t meet my ‘person’. Even in this pandemonium that we living in (I mean, maybe I’ve even met them already – if I have, feel free to make yourself known. Or in fact let me even start moving to him. Sometimes shoot your shot – #TMO2021 taught me that).
I also think that maybe because all my close friends are not in relationships either, (that I know of). So I guess there isn’t any pressure from my peers. Me entiendes?
Leave the past in the past
Imagínate, this time last year, on Valentine’s day, I went to Alicante with some friends from Valencia for Galantine’s day (I’m sorry, but that name is so dumb). Imagine waking up, walking out to the balcony, and seeing the sunrise on the beach (insert video here that I deffo won’t insert). Take me back…
Then even two years ago today I was at my friend’s house chilling with them. I don’t talk to one of them anymore, but I still miss him (this was strictly a platonic friendship btw).
You’ve got to love Snapchat memories. Sigh.
Enough reminiscing about Spain and the past before I actually cry.
Forget the former things, do not dwell on the past. See I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up, do you not perceive it (Isaiah 43:18-19).
God, I hear you, I hear you. Live in the present and open your eyes to what God is trying to do right here, right now.
Scared to fall in love
So, I’ve never been in love but I’ve deffo been in lust. I think that experience low-key-high-key-not-any-more-hopefully, made me scared of actually falling in love. Actually, let’s change that because why am I falling? I see falling as something you don’t do intentionally. As in it happens by accident…actually maybe that makes sense. Maybe I do want to fall in love because I might not even plan to – interesting.
Pues nada, after speaking to two of my good friends (I’m not going to expose you guys don’t worry – patient-client confidentiality and that) they both said similar things concerning being in love. They both didn’t realise they were in love or ‘pseudo-love’ (yikes) until they were out of the relationship. It was then that they realised how blind-sighted they were, and essentially saw what they wanted to see in this person. I guess when you really like/love someone, you begin to make excuses for their character and ignore the red flags that be flagging right in front of you. Pero no te preocupes, it’s all a learning experience, a painful one, but a learning experience.
‘God is not interested in your comfort but your character development’. I read this somewhere and it’s actually true because we know that in this world we will have trouble (John 16:33). We were never promised an easy life, especially as believers. Yet, in all of this, we know that we serve a God who will never leave us nor forsake us, especially in the midst of heartbreak.
Resources
Song
If you don’t know about Maverick City Music, then I don’t know for you.
‘Your love will not run empty, your love’s a well that will never run dry’.
I feel like until you understand the depths of God’s love and the weight it carries, you’ll continue to rely on a human being to provide the love that only God can provide.
‘You’ll come like you always do…never once have you left us on our own, cause you are faithful God’.
Even if you’re single, especially on Valentine’s day, it doesn’t mean you’re alone although it may feel like it sometimes. Just pour your heart out to God and let Him know how you feel.
YouTube
The description is pretty self-explanatory, the video is only 1:57 minutes as well:
Podcast
If you want to laugh, listen to this episode to hear all about their heartbreak stories from both a guy’s and girl’s perspective:
